{"id":179,"date":"2026-01-08T23:35:09","date_gmt":"2026-01-08T22:35:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bleuxperience.com\/sauphar\/?p=179"},"modified":"2026-01-09T18:18:41","modified_gmt":"2026-01-09T17:18:41","slug":"la-colere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bleuxperience.com\/sauphar\/2026\/01\/08\/la-colere\/","title":{"rendered":"La col\u00e8re"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"179\" class=\"elementor elementor-179\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0472ac6 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"0472ac6\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;shape_divider_top&quot;:&quot;curve&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shape elementor-shape-top\" aria-hidden=\"true\" data-negative=\"false\">\n\t\t\t<svg 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elementor-element-6fed0e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-theme-post-title elementor-page-title elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6fed0e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"theme-post-title.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">La col\u00e8re<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-21942a5 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"21942a5\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4242446 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"4242446\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c29902c elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" 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data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>L\u2019autre ne nous blesse pas<\/strong>,<strong> il nous r\u00e9v\u00e8le simplement que nos plaies de vie ne sont pas encore gu\u00e9ries<\/strong>..<\/p><p>Savez- vous que<strong> nos relations<\/strong> avec autres sont en r\u00e9alit\u00e9\u00a0<strong>une\u00a0opportunit\u00e9 de mieux nous connaitre<\/strong> ?<\/p><p><strong>La relation exigeante<\/strong>\u00a0\u00e0 l\u2019autre est un r\u00e9v\u00e9lateur de <strong>nos propres manques<\/strong>, de nos <strong>propres besoins qui n\u2019ont pas \u00e9t\u00e9 identifi\u00e9s, reconnus et assouvis <\/strong>par nous-m\u00eame.<\/p><p>Ainsi, <strong>la gu\u00e9rison ne viendra jamais de l\u2019ext\u00e9rieur<\/strong>, <strong>mais de notre int\u00e9rieur<\/strong>, de notre <strong>prise de conscience<\/strong>, de notre volont\u00e9 <strong>de voir ce qui est<\/strong> :\u00a0 <strong>croire qu\u2019une relation, quelle qu\u2019en soit la nature, peut nous<\/strong> <strong>faire oublier nos manques pass\u00e9s<\/strong>, tel un\u00a0miracle,\u00a0peut effacer nos souffrances, <strong>est malheureusement\u00a0un leurre<\/strong>, et conduira\u00a0\u00e0 la d\u00e9ception : <strong>c\u2019est faire porter \u00e0 l\u2019autre<\/strong> (conjoint, enfants etc\u2026) <strong>une grosse responsabilit\u00e9<\/strong> et <strong>nous compensons syst\u00e9matiquement par l\u2019autre<\/strong>.<\/p><p>C\u2019est pourquoi si nous envisageons <strong>nos relations avec les autres comme une opportunit\u00e9 de mieux nous connaitre<\/strong>, <strong>plut\u00f4t qu\u2019une solution pour nous sauver de nous-m\u00eame<\/strong>, nous pourrions <strong>commencer \u00e0 apprendre \u00e0 identifier et \u00e0 combler nos propres besoins<\/strong>, pour enfin gu\u00e9rir nos blessures, briser et<strong> laisser aller cette carapace, sans en faire porter le poids \u00e0 quiconque aux travers de nos exigences.<\/strong><\/p><p>En revanche, tant que nous pensons que <strong>l\u2019autre poss\u00e8de la clef de notre bonheur,<\/strong> nous restons simplement dans<strong> une sorte de brouillard<\/strong>, qui variera en fonction des possibilit\u00e9s ou du \u00ab\u00a0bon vouloir\u00a0\u00bb de l\u2019autre.<\/p><p>L\u2019autre, face \u00e0 nous, peut repr\u00e9senter <strong>une sorte de drogue dont le sevrage peut nous \u00eatre intol\u00e9rable<\/strong>, car sinon, <strong>nous aurions \u00e0 aller regarder au fond de nous-m\u00eame<\/strong>, pour voir ce qui s\u2019y passe, enfin..<\/p><p><strong>Le manque<\/strong> (de ce que nous n\u2019arrivons pas \u00e0 identifier, et que nous croyons \u00eatre l\u2019autre !) <strong>r\u00e9veille la souffrance, la crainte, la peur<\/strong>, qui peuvent d\u00e9boucher sur des comportements <strong>emprunts d\u2019exigence vers l\u2019ext\u00e9rieur<\/strong>, ou<strong> d\u2019abandon de soi-m\u00eame<\/strong>.<\/p><p>Des sentiments et <strong>\u00e9motions qui peuvent, \u00e0 leur tour se\u00a0 transformer en\u00a0col\u00e8re<\/strong>,<strong> en d\u00e9tresse,<\/strong> si ce que nous \u00ab\u00a0exigeons\u00a0\u00bb de l\u2019autre n\u2019a pas de retour.<\/p><p><strong>Apprendre \u00e0 se comprendre avec bienveillance<\/strong>, \u00e0 identifier les m\u00e9canismes qui se sont install\u00e9s en nous, par la<strong> programmation de notre syst\u00e8me nerveux<\/strong>,\u00a0 souvent pendant l\u2019enfance, dans <strong>le seul but de nous prot\u00e9ger de situations diverses<\/strong> ; Mais aussi, <strong>comprendre nos besoins profonds<\/strong>, ignor\u00e9s jusqu\u2019alors, est la voie pour se lib\u00e9rer, <strong>se sentir mieux, avec l\u2019autre, chaque jour<\/strong>;<\/p><p><strong>Briser notre carapace est la clef.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6a312e e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"d6a312e\" 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